16 December 2011

End of the Year


I guess it's that time of year where I report on all of our fabulousness-of which our kids have a lot. of. So here is a rundown on our family:

At the beginning of the year, Jason started working for the UVU aviation department, eventually becoming an instructional designer. He really loves the job. He uses his skills in aviation, education, computer programming, and even a little music. He spends as much time as possible with the kids and I, and we love him for all of his hard work. He is still planning on becoming a pilot, but it's on hold for a few more months. In September, we moved up to Brigham City so Jason could teach his brother's orchestra classes while his brother is on sabbatical working on his doctoral degree. He was recognized in the newspaper for his fabulousness in conducting. During the autumn months he enjoyed mowing the lawn-not-which ONLY took about 2 hours every time. He is currently busy serving as the cub master AND the choir director.

I have been enjoying the craft room since we moved here. I've learned all kinds of tricks of what NOT to do when sewing different projects. They were time consuming but valuable lessons and I've enjoyed learning new things. I've also been watching a lot of youtube videos on how to watercolor. I've found it to be a therapeutic and relaxing thing for me, no matter how ugly my paintings turn out. I have a sudden strong desire to buy expensive brushes. I'm also enjoying-a great surprise to me, I assure you-homeschooling my kids. It's been very liberating to be on my own schedule. Of course, I've also been popping back down to Orem often to try and stay involved in the singing group, Resonaire, that I accompany. They are amazing women who have profoundly impacted my life for the better. I'm loving the small townishness of Brigham City and in many ways I wish we could stay here longer, but I'm excited to move back down to reality again too. We love living in the magic house where the kids play nicely together-most of the time-and we have room to breath. I also love having my sister-in-law living down the street. She has lots of fun and good ideas and it's fun to pop over when I want my feet zoned. ;) That's a lot of "I loves" but that's what my life is filled with right now. Too corny? Oh well.

Ben has been enjoying scouts. He has an ever creative imagination and enjoys being the oldest. He is flying through math and art, but still hates to read on his own. He does like to be read to however, so I think there is still hope for him. He is always happier if he's had time outside and has made several friends on the street. He recently asked me if we could live here forever. Ben also enjoys the trips down to grandparents' houses. He made a sword out of wood with my dad last time we were there. He likes to "construct" things and always has some kind of project going. His favorite thing right now is that he is learning the cello and has been going to school with Daddy to practice with the orchestra. He plays with the 7th graders and we are so proud of him and how fast he is learning.

Lizzy is now 7 going on 27. She likes to help with dinner and cleaning and the baby. She likes to dress up and often constructs outfits out of crazy things. Last night, for example, she used one of Natalie's Sunday dresses to make a skirt. She likes things to be just so and will organize her room every night before getting into bed. She also has a silly giggle that gets everyone laughing. Liz is learning the piano. She is a perfectionist and gets really mad when she can't play each piece absolutely perfect the first time. She's been learning what practicing is. She is always helping Eli with whatever he wants and he seems to recognize that she is the girl to get stuff done if he needs anything.

Janey is still our dreamer. She is also learning the piano but is quite less intense about it than Liz. She loves to draw and asks me if she can paint several times a day. Jane also loves to read. I've been having the kids earn nintendo/tv/computer time by reading. Jane always has extra minutes left over because she always reads more than the other stuff. She loves to feel pretty and spends a lot of time "dressed up". Jane is working hard on her scripture memorization and gave her scripture in primary last month perfectly memorized. She has gained a lot of self-esteem this year and is really growing up. She also likes to cook and help with the little kids.

Liam is our guy. He's been learning how to read and is flying through his lessons. He started medication this month for his ADHD and we've been blessed to really see his personality come through. He has a silly sense of humor and often gets Jason and I laughing during tense moments. He likes to build things, just like his big brother. He often has the construx bucket dumped out in the toy room with some kind of helicopter or tank under construction. He has a tender heart and cares for his brothers and sisters-but he also likes to tease. Liam is really good at making boy noises. Like flying ships and canons being shot from space. His mastocytosis (this word is not even in the dictionary) is bothering him some, be he is so patient. He is a good example to all of us.

Natalie is 3. For sure. She wants to do everything on her own and has lots of ideas. She creates all kinds of disasters and enjoys making them. We have beautiful hand prints on the wall of the craft room which she made by tracing her hands with a permanent marker. She gave herself the best mullet since Richard Dean Anderson, which I had to fix myself. She also has the softest cheeks and biggest brown eyes and is our peanut. She has a silly fake laugh and will use it to make the other kids laugh. She likes to follow Eli around and talk in a high pitched voice and try to hug him and put his shoes on. She also likes to go to the store with me-especially if I let her walk. She likes to play outside on the swings and she knows she's the princess.

Elijah is almost 2 and is enjoying his life as the baby. He is currently obsessed with wearing shoes. He puts them on himself as soon as he wakes up and gets mad when I take them off to change his diaper, put him down for a nap, or bedtime. He loves to sing with the kids and he loves his daddy. His day seems to revolve around Jason's lunch time break when he sits at the table and eats half of Jason's lunch. He also loves his grandmas and papas and likes to talk on the phone with them He'll bring me the phone and say "gak a papa". Eli likes to run and scream and is a typical boy. He is really learning to talk now, and everyday he says something new that I didn't know he could say before. His new phrases this week: "Hey! Put that back." "Hey! Give that to me." "Thank you, Daddy". He is a sweet cuddler and everyone loves having him in our family.

05 December 2011

Crazy for Christmas






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My favorite part is the white socks with the sandals. Nice. The kid thinks he needs to wear shoes 24/7.

Things are always crazy here nowadays. The kids have lots of energy and excitement so they have been playing freeze tag every day. Even Eli enjoys the sport. The following video is a gem. If you only watch part of it, I think the ending is the best.

We decided that this year it would be fun to get a really tall tree, just because we can. We found a cool looking mountain tree and the kids are having a lot of fun decorating and undecorating it this year. Lige likes to throw the ball ornaments down the stairs. Yesterday, they gathered up all of the balls into a bowl and pretended like it was treasure. They then took turns hiding it around the house and making up clues to the treasure. It seriously kept them busy for HOURS. I love it when they play together while using their imaginations.

We had to document Jason's participation in "No-Shave Novembeard". I actually enjoyed his beard but I was glad to see his face again at the beginning of the month. Does anyone else think he looks EXACTLY like Obi-Wan Kenobi? From the new Star Wars movies? Man, he has a sexy smile.

24 September 2011

My Soap Box

What do Presidents JFK, Lincoln, Eisenhower, and Roosevelt have in common? They all had ADHD. Being the parent of not one but multiple children with ADHD is a challenge I'm not sure I'll ever, EVER get on top of. Most days I feel exhausted and like a total failure, but the kicker is I'm SURE it's much more difficult for my children than for me. I have come to realize that half of my feelings of failure come from feeling like my children are expected to BE a certain way, and if they're not, they're bad kids...and it's my fault for not teaching them better.

Here are some important things that I feel people so often forget, or fail to see entirely. Number one: ADHD is a real disease with real effects. Yes, a lot of people were over-diagnosed/medicated in the early 80's and 90's. However, medication and diagnosis have changed a LOT in the last 30 years. (As most medical stuff has.) It is also quite a common disease. Just because it was a fad 3 decades ago doesn't mean it isn't real, and that those diagnosed with it are faking it or hypochondriacs.

Number 2: Don't expect kids with ADHD to act like other kids but expect great things from them. Read that line again if this is a new concept to you. I'm sooooo tired of the PRESSURE my kids are under to act like adults at the age of 5. Why do we do this to them? And it seems like the worse the ADHD symptoms, the more maturity is expected of them. They can't HELP that it's easier to concentrate when they're moving, coloring, wiggling, etc. I keep catching myself responding to the world's pressure to have perfect children and then I put it on my kids. NOT. FAIR. or practical.

Number 3: Just because they get an answer in a different way doesn't mean they are wrong. That is something cool about ADHD kids. They think outside the box. They come up with cool ideas no one else does. They can concentrate on more than one thing at a time. When ADHD is managed, a patient can use the disease to his advantage and create some cool stuff! Take Sir Richard Branson for example. He started a fortune 500 company and invented an underwater airplane. WHAT?! You know that's cool. Paul Orfalea, who started Kinko's says of ADHD that it made him "curious". He started his first business when he was 16. David Needleman, who started Jet Blue said, " with the disorder comes creativity and the ability to think outside the box. " He credits the creation of his company with his ADHD.

Number 4: There are many ways to manage it. None are completely wrong/right. There's medication, changing diet, exercise, herbs, foot zoning, essential oils, behavioral studies, the list goes on. I feel so frustrated trying to research these. Each one spends more time tearing down all the others instead of building up ideas. Creating hope. I have decided to do what works best for EACH CHILD. And that is the best I can do.
My kids usually can't sit still for more than 30 seconds. REALLY. And sometimes I can see how bad they feel about their inability to control themselves. It comes out as sudden shyness, anger, crying, crazy off-the-wall laughter. I can barely juggle my own emotions, I feel bad that I can't EMPATHIZE more with what they deal with on a second to second basis. But I can SYMPATHIZE. And so I will. I am signing off. I choose to not sign up with the world's expectation of how my children should act, be, grow up. I'm going to do what's best for them. I only ask you to try to have patience with them too. I'm sure almost every one knows a child with ADHD. I plead: make a special effort to just expect them to be them. I will end this post with a list of more incredible people who have and deal with ADHD.

Walt Disney-you know how many children this man has influenced? Michael Jordan, Prince Charles, Beethoven, Napoleon, Hitchock-famous enough that all we need is his last name, Einstien, Bill Cosby-he made ADHD brilliant and funny, and Jim Carey, Ty Pennington-who doesn't love a little HGTV?, Michael Phelps, Terry Bradshaw, and Pete Rose.
And lastly, the 3 most important on the list:

My little Brother-the funniest person I know, can diffuse the most tense moments with his humor, keeps the family together, is brilliant in school and going to be an eye doctor, has WAY more energy than humanly possible. I'm convinced he's a super hero. The kids think so too.

My Grandpa. Raised 11 kids, brilliant teacher and student, pioneered in the field of genetics, incredible missionary, and the best BOOMPA EVER. Today also happens to be his birthday.

My husband. Best daddy ever, hard worker, multi-talented; he can wire your house, fly a plane, conduct and orchestra or choir (and pick out the bad notes), play any stringed instrument like nobody's business and lots of others like somebody's business, tune your piano, and hold 40 middle schoolers' attention for 90 minutes. On top of his talents he gives the best hugs, and I still get that quivery feeling in my heart every time he comes home.

This post is dedicated to all you incredible, full of potential people who happen to have ADHD.

19 September 2011

New Tricks

My last post was supposed to include a video of Natalie which I accidentally left out of the post. She has gotten quite adept at keeping herself awake at night. I do a workout video at night and a few days ago we discovered her in the hallway on her back copying me and the video. She also sings...a lot. Maybe even more than Jane did, which is really saying something! Sadly, the camera ran out of memory during her best solo.

15 September 2011

Birthdays, Ballet, and House Pics

Liam's 6th birthday was AWESOME! He had very few requests, which were easy to fulfill. Chocolate cake with chocolate icing and candles that said "Happy Birthday". Check. Presents. Check. Cousins come over for cake and ice cream. Check. He also wanted to go to Pirate Island for dinner but I guess they had a fire so he declared that "BYU Bowling" was what he wanted. I thought it was funny that he specified that it had to be at BYU. Liam is such a smart kid! Doing homeschool with him has taught me that he knows more than I thought he did. He's learning to read VERY quickly, can tell left from right, can almost tie his shoes, sings a lot of songs, can run really fast, is kind and compassionate (when he wants to be), and give the best "I love you mommy" hugs.






The camera is blurry because he's SOOO excited!
NOT Natalie's birthday. He he...
All grown up!
I love this picture of Lige. He knows the good stuff that's coming! Cake!
Kids everywhere! We LOVE IT!
I wore this shirt when I was a kid. It's Natalie's current fave for bedtime.
One pair of pjs for opening presents at the crack of dawn, another for eating cake right before bed. Perfect day!
Master bedroom. To my fellow HGTV fans, yes, I KNOW the marriage certificate on the wall is not the proper scale. Vern would be horrified, but it's not staying there. In fact, it's already been moved.
The room without curtains...

The room with curtains. Now I just have to make a bed sash for the foot of my bed. Blue or Brown? What's your vote?


Never ending back yard...oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh...(Never ending story.....)

"Club house." The kids have used it to play school, rapunzel, spies, everything. It also probably contains half of my dishes. And some stuff from the pantry.

Basketball hoop and box gardens behind. I made homemade spaghetti sauce and fresh salad using the onions, peppers, tomatoes, and carrots. It's also got potatoes, corn, raspeberries, strawberries, peaches, and some other stuff. Does anyone want some jalapenos? I'm not a fan.

Kitchen from the living room. Our table seats 5. We're still looking for a bigger one, until then, card table it is...

Our tiny living room from the kitchen.

Back of house.

Family room office space. The cabinets were built in.



School room/craft room.


Play room. The black stripe is chalkboard paint. I like that the kids had written "dad loves mom" on the wall.

Well, there you have it. The pictures really don't do the house justice. For a real view, you'll have to come visit. To my Idaho family, we make a good pit stop. If I know you're coming, you get cookies....

08 September 2011

OH THE THINGS ONE CAN DO

...in a new house.

I'm writing this in the basement where I can look out my walkout basement door and see my kids playing happily and noisily in the huge back yard. Life here has already been hectic, loud, quiet, and wonderful. We feel like we live in a grand hotel and are playing house. Pictures are coming soon, but the kids broke my good camera so it might be a while. In the meantime here are the things we have done since we've been here in Brigham:

  1. I became a real parent two days ago. All the potty training, discipline, love, comfort, cooking, and cleaning don't make a real parent. It's when you have to say no to a pet that it all becomes real. It was the most adorable fluffy orange tabby kitten and it followed Ben home. Several times. (Lest you think I have a heart made out of stone, let me inform you that Ben's eyes were nearly swollen shut for hours after his "play date" from allergies.)
  2. Soak for hours in our JETTED TUB. I've ALWAYS wanted one. Now I have one. W.O.W.
  3. Drag main and hit Kent's, Shopko, the Dollar Store, and Walmart-which by the way is surprisingly clean and quiet. All I need is a Target and I'm set.
  4. Watch the kids play outside in a half acre of fenced in bliss, complete with a play set, climbing trees, and vegetable/fruit bearing garden. Which leads us to:
  5. Eat fresh veggies that I don't have to plant or water. All I have to do is weed (which I find therapeutic) and hand the kids a bucket to pick them. The kids finished off the peas after only 2 days but we have an abundance of corn, tomatoes, onions, peppers, raspberries, and later pears and apples. The whole garden has a drip system which is on an automatic timer.
  6. Spend lots of time running up and down the street to visit cousins and new friends. We also love having cousins come play at our house. It's weird how we don't feel that there are 10 kids in the house sometimes.
  7. Send all of the kids to the play room to play. The mess in contained. The kids are happy. We have room.
  8. Watch a movie on the big screen tv that's hooked up to the computer. So fun. Jason and I have spent several evenings rediscovering our movies.
  9. Plugging our ears as the many trains go behind our property. I'm very grateful for the fence. Liam thinks he needs to be outside to see every single train.
  10. Waiting for internet/phone service.
  11. Enjoying how the whole of main street gets shut down for days for the peach festival.
  12. No Traffic.
  13. Cooking with my own dishes.
  14. A hundred BAZILLION loads of laundry as I try to wash things that have been in storage for over a year and keep up on our current dirty clothes, bedding, and towels.
  15. Setting up my OWN SEWING ROOM. I'm using it for homeschooling and crafts as well. It has many uses. Basically, everything I do in there, I love to do!
We feel so blessed to be here. It's wonderful to be on our own and working hard to pay down debts. We plan to enjoy every day we spend here in this home!!

PS Does anyone have a love seat, oversized or wingback chair, or deep freezer chest they want to sell or get rid of?

20 August 2011

Devil's Kitchen





One of our favorite activities in the summertime is to take the kids to Devil's Kitchen on the Nebo Loop. It's a very short walk along a (kind of) paved walkway. There are tons of wildflowers and great views.